Saturday, May 18, 2013

Change is in the air?

Sometimes I feel really good about the advances made against homophobia - how so many well known people are much more willing to be honest about the sexuality - Neil Patrick Harris, Dom Lemon, Anderson Cooper, Rachel Maddow for example - Marie Osmond and even some Republican senators acknowledging their gay children and supporting them.

Then I read an article which appeared in the latest edition of The Advocate, and as much as I/we would like to think our culture is a more accepting one, some kids, like the one featured in the article are still being victimized, not only by her classmates but by the very people who should be protecting her - the teachers and superintendents at the junior high school in Mississippi. After her parents reported their daughter's physical abuse they were allegedly told by the principal "If she wants to dress like a boy, she's going to be treated like a boy"! The school now faces the possibility of a lawsuit for failing to provide the minimum provisions for student safety set by the US Dept. of Education.

Sadly, this, of course, is not an isolated case. It is a fact that physical abuse increases in elementary school, peaks in middle school, declines in high school - but verbal abuse remains constant. So my euphoria of seeing Jesse Tyler Ferguson of Modern Family 'tying the knot' with his fiance Justin Mikita appeared to be fleeting. Nevertheless, as Dan Savage says in his video of encouragement to young gays "It Gets Better", it actually does and I haven't entirely given up hope that one day all of this will be completely uncontroversial - after all we now have gay central characters on TV shows - and they don't have to die in the end!

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24 comments:

  1. I swung over from sweet spot. This is such a touching post! I just saw 42, the movie about Jackie Robinson. My friend sayid "we've come so far!" I said "but we still have a long way to go." We can never rest until genuine equality is automatically available for everyone. In short, we can never rest! Thank you!

    Urbanista
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  2. Wow, so they sanction violence against boys in that school? It's so bad when these situations happen to adults, but to kids? It's just horrible.

    Erica
    eripike at gmail dot com

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  3. That's awful. Sounds like some people are still back in the 1950s or something. Thanks for posting, J.P.

    <3

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  4. Thank you for taking part in the hop!

    kimberlyFDR@yahoo.com

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  5. Sadly, Mississippi is not known for its liberal viewpoints. I'm never surprised when I see this kind of stuff associated with them. I mean, they've only now ratified the 13th amendment, yikes.

    Ryal

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  6. Thank you for the opportunity to win and for participating in the hop.

    Cheers
    Karl
    slats5663(at)shaw(dot)ca

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  7. It is so hard to combat bullying in schools. We need a better system.
    debby236 at gmail dot com

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  8. Thank you for the thoughtful post! That poor girl! And what does "dresses like a boy" even mean? Where I come from, there are no school uniforms and most girls wear jeans! The issue generally starts if a boy wears girl's clothes. And that's just as crazy! Live and let live. It's bad enough if there is bullying at school but that the teaching staff supports it!

    stormymonday AT gmx DOT net

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  9. Was the girl a tomboy? I don't see what clothing and/or behavior has to do with being human and aiding a person in need.

    Thank you for being a voice in the hop.

    humhumbum AT yahoo DOT com

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  10. Thanks for all your great comments! Don't forget to visit the other blogs on the hop. We're here till the 27th.

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  11. I agree with you. While we're making progress, we still have a ways to go. But every time someone comes out, or supports a loved one who comes out, we get one more step closer to full acceptance. Thanks for participating JP!

    tiger-chick-1(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  12. It's so sad to know bullying is being done to kids each day.We must show support to them.
    cvsimpkins@msn.com

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  13. We need a better system to combat bullying in the schools. It seems now that nothing is being done. That has to change.

    e.balinski(at)att(dot)net

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  14. That was a wonderful post. I think that things really are getting better. I only wish that chance happened faster. Thanks for participating in the hop.

    Beth
    JPadawan11@gmail.com

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  15. Things really are getting better. I have to believe that. Thank you so much for your post and participating in this amazing hop!

    sophiebonaste@gmail.com

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  16. It makes me sad that the people in positions of power over kids can be some of the worse offenders. They help the abuse continue on.

    penumbrareads(at)gmail(dot)com

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  17. Yes, we have come a long way but there is so much further to go. Yes, a repub senator came out in support of same sex marriage but only because it affected his family. Sorry, I seem to be seeing the glass half empty today.

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  18. Thanks so much for sharing your post in this blog hop! Such an important subject.
    OceanAkers @ aol.com

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  19. Great post. Parents and Teachers should make sure any child is not bullied. Children should be taught to respect themselves and others it would make the world a better place.

    ShirleyAnn@speakman40.freeserve.co.uk

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  20. Great post, It's hard to believe that people can be so cruel, and it's even worse when adults allow, and in some cases participate in the bullying. They should know better!

    thorarun(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  21. sounds like they just wanted to make her an example to discourage other 'unwanted' behavior

    lena.grey.iam@gmail.com

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  22. Thank you for the post.

    peggy1984 at live dot com

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  23. It's a shame that this is still going on you would think people would know better. Thank you for taking part in the hop!
    sstrode at scrtc dot com

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  24. Thanks to all for participating - winners are Julianna and Urbanista - congrats! I'll be in touch. Cheers, JP

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