Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Hop Against Homophobia

Hi everyone, and thanks for following the blogs “Hop against Homophobia”.
First, I would personally like to thank Goodreads, Erica Pike and Karen Klein and everyone else who took the time to organize this ‘hop’ and give it the attention it deserves.

I’d like to offer a couple of prizes for those of you reading this blog. Leave a comment or just your name and email address and I will use random.org to pull the names of two readers who can have their pick of any one ebook from my website—http://www.jpbowie.com/
I will contact and congratulate the winners personally.

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Homophobia is ugly. Even the word has a nasty sound to it and immediately brings to my mind a nightmarish vision of Fred Phelps and his rabid family who make up the congregation of the Westboro Baptist Church and their God Hates Faggots ministry - nice huh?

Not content with spewing their ignorance at gays, they now picket funerals of our war heroes. And of course, the word, ignorance, is the key. The phrase ‘ignorance is bliss’ could never be used to describe those people.

Ignorance is the main source of hatred and bullying. Some teachers are fighting hard to stop the bullying that is so prevalent in our schools, but unfortunately there are too many school boards willing to turn a blind eye to what has become a national tragedy. My admiration is unbounded for the likes of Dan Savage who co-founded the ‘It Gets Better’ campaign— http://www.itgetsbetter.org/ — and the hundreds of teens who form gay/straight alliances, sometimes in the face of vicious opposition.

I’ve been fortunate in my lifetime. I wasn’t victimized, kicked out of my family home or vilified by 'friends' when I came out. Actually, being in show biz, I was never really in. My gayness was just an accepted part of my life, and my friends’ lives.

Yet, I can sympathize and agonize when I read or hear of those men and women forced to endure loneliness and sometimes humiliation because of their sexuality. One can only hope that someday, with forward thinking people like all of you, homophobia will be a thing of the past, that bigotry and discrimination will be viewed by the majority for what it is—ignorance—and that Equality will be the law of the land.

Thank you. J.P. Bowie

56 comments:

  1. Wonderful post! Thanks for taking part in the hop :)

    kimberlyFDR@yahoo.com

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  2. Great post, JP. And I hope exactly the same thing.
    Thanks for taking part in the hop.
    *hugs*
    K-lee

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  3. Things are much better here in the UK these day - mostly - here's hoping the US (and SOOOO many other countries) realise how bad they are being soon. Perhaps one day we'll look back and say "god, did we really allow that?" in the same way as we see old films of people smoking inside and finding it odd.

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  4. I'll join you in hoping it gets better in the US.

    andreagrendahl AT gmail DOT com

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  5. As bad as it is in the US, Iran has actually executed 4000 people in the last few years for sexual deviancy! Mindyew with crazies like Santorum and his ilk striving for power, I don't think we're that safe!

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  6. So true, the people attempting to take power here are scary for the LGBT population, but we do have it better here then in most countries and I am thankful for that. As long as we all continue to stand up for injustices things will get better for us all.

    thanks,
    grumpybybirth at gmail .com

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  7. Ignorance hurts. People are hurt by words and actions that homophobia creates. It is time for a change.


    morris.crissy@gmail.com

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  8. Thanks for being a part of the hop :)

    raynman1979 at yahoo dot com

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  9. Great post, Ignorance is really bad.

    dannyfiredragon at aol.com

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  10. I too hope that someday we will be free from the homophobia that is a part of our society.

    bubbliemom (at) gmail (dot) com

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  11. Great post, thanks!

    Joyfullyjay at gmail dot com

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  12. Thank you for being a part of the Hop! *hugs* Tara

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  13. For 65 years I have witnessed senseless murders. Ignorance and hate spoken from the words of the youth. Much of it in the name of God. Yet I spent 25+ years loving and being loved by the man God meant for me. I thank God for those younger than I that continue to fight for equal rights under the law. Never give up because the haters never will.

    JP, I love the Portrait series. Thanks for taking part in the hop and the great post.

    buildingobooks@gmail.com

    Tom

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  14. Thank you for sharing this with us today

    musings-of-a-bookworm@hotmail.co.uk

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  15. Thank you for a very thoughtful blog. I look forward to actually getting to meet and talk with you in ABQ! :)

    Juliebites at gmail dot com

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  16. Thanks so much for sharing with us, JP. I've been enjoying reading all the posts so far on this hop!

    ashley.vanburen[at]gmail[dot]com

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  17. Great post! While I try to stay open minded, I get to a degree how you fear the unkown and tend to judge strangers by little things you know about them or prejudies you heard. But to hate or shun a person you knew your whole life just because you learn one more thing about them... well I don't get it.

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  18. Thanks for sharing. I love your books.

    gisu29(at)gmail(dot)com

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  19. Lovely posts from lovely people - I've decided to give away 4 books instead of 2 - so I'll be in touch with the winners after the 20th! Cheers, JP

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  20. Awesome post Darling

    silver pixie

    ilovefairymen at gmail dot com

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  21. Thanks for the great post and for fighting the fight!
    Yvette
    yratpatrol@aol.com

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  22. Thanks for the great post and fighting the fight.
    Yvette
    yratpatrol@aol.com

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  23. I agree with you as I have a son who is telling me he is attracted to boys..he asked me what was wrong with him, I said absolutely nothing. He is getting picked on but I have good friends who will speak to him if he needs it. So far I am handling it. I even had a dear friend send me some YA books for him to read. Thanks for the blog hop JP. You are the bomb baby!!
    Cinders

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  24. JP I love your blog. I can say that i am one of those kids that was kicked out of my famlies house, i have lived with 5 differed t families while I was in school an out, when I came out it made my world my life a better place for me, that's what I thought, i was bullied in school an I had name called at me so I didn't let them hurt me they are just words. So when I did something good for my school everyone stop an they applaued me even the others who had called me names, i felt good an happy. So I understand your post because I lived it an now im trying to help other with they're secrets.
    JP you are an inperastional person that I look up to an the more i read your books the more I understand life.
    Thank you for putting out some amazing books.

    Your friend
    Will Swan

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    1. Thanks Will - it's a rough tough world out there, but good friends and love make it worthwhile. I'm glad you found that better place. Cheers, JP

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  25. Thank you for posting this and continuing to encourage others to use their voices to fight against ignorance.

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  26. Thank you for such a wonderful post. I thank also for taking part in our hop as for most of us this is the chance for us to get to have our say and actually have people listen.

    normanielsen@bigpond.com

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  27. Great Post. I am so lucky to call you a friend.

    Hugs
    Theresa A

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  28. Thanks everyone for stopping by and adding your support to a truly great cause. Maybe the dream isn't so impossible...

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  29. Oh count me in.

    moriamccain at gmail dot com

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  30. I'm very much looking forward to the day when the homophobes and transphobes are the minority and those of us who fight for equality and justice and the right for all to be who they are and love who they want are the majority, the lawmakers and homophobia/transphobia is a thing of the past. What a sweet time that will be.

    vicktorabailey@yahoo.com

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  31. I have always lived my life to accept a person for who they are and not what they are. When I meet a person, I have no bad opinion of them and start out considering them at least acquaintances. I don't see color, religion, sexuality, or any other criteria. I can't wait for a time when people learn to live to accept people for who they are, and not judge them for it.

    AJ

    ajkelton1@gmail.com

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  32. If anyone ever organizes a group to picket that "church", count me in. I will come out of protest retirement and be there carrying a sign.

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  33. I've been picketed by Phelps. Right after Prop 8 passed, there was a rally on the Plaza in Kansas City. I was over 60 and had never taken part in any type of protest. My pastor and I held our church flag (MCC-KC) and the Phelps group was across the street.

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  34. Thank you for speaking out. And I'll gladly hold a rainbow flag in front of those horrible demons posing as Christians.
    Thank you for participating in the hop!
    Bella
    www.bellaleonebooks.com
    bellaleone4 at gmail dot com

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  35. Thanks so much. That's the one thing I hate the most is when so called "Christians" do such horrible things. My view is I'm not God. I don't know what God's gonna do. I'll leave the judging up to him. All I know, is that when I get to the pearly gates, I'll tell him that I treated people fairly and kindly and my conscience is clear. And for those who still claim homosexuality is a sin? Who made you judge, jury, and executioner? Are you God? No? Didn't think so. Are you perfect? No. Then why are you judging others? Hating on someone for something they can't change is like hating me because I'm white. I can't change that, I was born that way. So what if someone's gay? They're not forcing you to be gay and they're not hurting you. So let them live in peace and be happy. As a final thought, I'll let you all know, I'm a Christian, and every day, I pray that one day homophobia will be no more and that my friends and family who are gay will have the freedom to be themselves.

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  36. Thanks for participating in the hop. This is a great cause that I pray one day will not be needed.

    forettarose@yahoo.com

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  37. Fred Phelps is evil. Pure and simple. He's not even a homophobe; he's a hater. What's worse is that he's using God as an excuse to spew his hatred, like people sometimes use the devil as an excuse ("The devil made me do it!!"). It's very, very strange that he and I worship the same God...because my God is loving, not hateful, and most certainly does hate "fags" (except maybe if the word is used for cigarettes). I made a post with pictures from the Fred Phelps campaign on Randy's blog (participant nr. 80), since Randy's busy this weekend.

    Erica
    eripike at gmail dot com

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    1. As Jesus said "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." Not a long line there after he said that!

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  38. Thanks for sharing with us, I'm loving reading all the posts from the people participating in the hop.

    burchills AT gmail DOT com

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  39. Good post and thank you for participating... yeah, I know all too well about school boards who look the other way...My beloved husband (to be) is a HS English teacher... and has recently come out as bisexual to a few choice friends and his adult children (very well received I might add) -- yet he lives in fear that if the school finds out - he will lose his 20 years of teaching, based on a 'morals' clause...

    The administration is not at all GLBTQ friendly... they discourage teachers for reaching out or even handling 'harassment' as it is "too political"... recently, he assigned his senior writing class to choose something out of the news and write about it. 2 chose pro gay rights and 3 chose marriage equality... and it was HE who got called out on the carpet about it....

    continued success with your writing...

    romancewiththeflemingtons.blogspot.com

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  40. Wonderful post. I cherish the same hopes myself.

    I am also repeatedly grateful that a certain man referred to in your post is on my country's list of individuals not welcomed (along with his daughter). I suspect he and his church do more to damage his "cause" than help it because anyone with an ounce of decency would know that campaigning at a funeral is wrong on every possible level.

    lmbrownauthor at gmail dot com

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  41. Great post. Both the school my daughter is in (middle school) and the school she is going to (HS) have gay/straight alliances at the schools. I am really hoping this means her generation is becoming more accepting as a whole.

    susanmik AT gmail DOT com

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  42. Great post. I have hope for the future, but I do get discouraged by things like the NC vote. But then the President counteracts that with his words of encouragement. Those of us thinking rational people need to get out there and speak out against the irrational haters as much as possible. We cannot sit silently by and watch this happen in our midst.

    sxswann(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. It's an uphill struggle boys and girls - but remember when certain minorities weren't allowed to share bathrooms or restaurants? Things evolve, and I'm pretty confident the younger generation will eventually get it done. The Prez has opened the door and he's got a voting bloc of several millions behind him come November.
      Thanks again for all the great comments.

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  43. Reading all of these blogs and comments has motivated me to do something...I'm not sure what I can really do to help but I will volunteer my time to a local GLBT group/charity/center. I'll find a way to help.

    tmason442@gmail.com

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  44. Thanks for participating in this great blog hop. I'm enjoying all the posts :)

    penumbrareads(at)gmail(dot)com

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  45. Great post, JP!

    rhondaw1965(@)yahoo(.)com

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  46. Thanks so much for being part of this important event!
    OceanAkers@aol.com

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  47. I've watched a few of the It Gets Better videos. One I watched last night had me crying along with the guy. Joel Burns is talking before the city council (of which he is a member) about the suicide rate amongst teens because of bullying. While he doesn't talk specifically, he has a instance of this in his past that deeply affects him. I just don't understand how bigots cannot understand who someone is attracted to doesn't make them less of a person. And it certainly doesn't make it acceptable to bully them.

    And on that idiot Phelps, he's old. Maybe once he's gone that joke of a church will fall apart.

    lina7391(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  48. To me, homophobia is an excuse. An excuse to not acknowledge that something *IS* because it was meant to be. I'm going to use me as an example, not an example of me being homophobic but an example of what I did when I encounter homosexualism. While growing up I never heard the word gay in my house thus I started middle school not even knowing what a gay person was. I heard the other boys call a boy in my class a *faggot* amongst other things and I had no idea what they were saying. Through the years and even after I knew what the word meant I didn't know anyone who was openly gay so it was never in my mind. Once my oldest daughter came to me and told me she was gay, even though I was scare at first, the first thing I did was research. Years later I'm still reading about and coming up with the most interesting things all the time, some very good, some, well... ignorant. Like the Phelps family and their cult followers. There is a word for these type of people, and sorry, it is NOT ignorant. They are just Sociopaths who don't like anything that does not conform to their beliefs. There are too many people who CHOOSE to be their puppets, unfortunately. Here's a couple of interesting things for you to share with your readers. The first one is a test done by a panel of psychologists on homophobia... http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-big-questions/201106/homophobic-men-most-aroused-gay-male-porn


    The second is a very interesting read for those who are believers... I'm not a believer but still find it quite interesting... www.paulonhomosexuality.com

    Enjoy and thanks for participating in Hop and sharing your views with us!!!

    Sandra Rush
    taina1959@yahoo.com
    http://enchantedrosegarden.blogspot.com

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    1. And thank you for your thoughtful response, JP

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  49. Thanks for the post, I have loved this hop!

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  50. Thank you for this post. It is very thought provoking!

    flubber2kool@gmail.com

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    www.jpbowie.com.
    Thank you all for participating - one day there may be no need for this kind of blog hopping!
    Love is all, JP

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